This quiz said I'm asexual. What does that mean for dating?
After taking this quiz, I realized I'm asexual. I'm worried about what that means for my love life though. For most people, sex is an important part of a relationship so I wonder if it'll be hard for me to find a partner :( How did you realize you were ace and how has dating been for you?
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Ngl dating has sucked for me so far. I was already in a relationship with my ex-bf when I realized I was asexual. Instead of breaking up with me and finding someone who was more compatible with him, he told me he loved me for who I was but then tried pressuring and guilt tripping me into having sex with him, so I left. Now a lot of people unmatch with me when I tell them I'm asexual, even though I have it in my dating profile. It's so frustrating
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Dang thats sounds rough, honestly, idk what being asexual is like, but pressuring you into that, dam, i hope he didnt try and touch you weirdly and stuff after you realised ur ace
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Something to keep in mind is that there are lots of different types of asexuality. Some people who are asexual may still be interested in having romantic relationships and such.
I think it's important to understand what part of you is asexual, because there are different aspects of life and relationships. If you're navigating dating while being asexual, it’s important to understand what you do or don’t want from dating. Is it a platonic thing? Are you trying to find companionship, or someone to hug, kiss, and hold hands with?
It really comes down to knowing what you want out of a relationship and being upfront and honest about it. Most dating situations start with the assumption that the relationship may eventually lead to sex. If you’re asexual—whether you don’t want sex or don’t enjoy it—you should be honest about that.
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I think it's important to understand what part of you is asexual, because there are different aspects of life and relationships. If you're navigating dating while being asexual, it’s important to understand what you do or don’t want from dating. Is it a platonic thing? Are you trying to find companionship, or someone to hug, kiss, and hold hands with?
It really comes down to knowing what you want out of a relationship and being upfront and honest about it. Most dating situations start with the assumption that the relationship may eventually lead to sex. If you’re asexual—whether you don’t want sex or don’t enjoy it—you should be honest about that.
Yeah, it's hard to date when you're asexual because sex is a non-negotiable for most allo people. That's why I only date other asexual people now. My ex was allo and she said that she was okay with never having sex because she loved everything about me and our relationship outside of it, and she never pressured me to have sex with her, but I could tell that she wasn't really fulfilled. It was so hard to break it off with her :(
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Dating has been really difficult. For the longest time I had been a people pleaser and felt forced to comply to the other person's need (after they constantly insisted that they "needed" it), thinking that this is what was "normal". I was taken advantage of and pushed to do things I was extremely uncomfortable doing. I feel sick to my stomach and extremely nauseated when I look back at these experiences.
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that's exactly my experience! I feel so sad bc idk if I'll ever be able to be in a relationship knowing the person has given so much up bc of me.
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im asexual but asexual dont mean that they dont want be in relationship or dont like romantic that is aromantic. asexual is only that they dont like sex
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I don't know , I'm still confused,! Am i asexual or not ? I felt strong sexual attraction once for my close friend but when i try to change the image and try to set another person in my mind, it doesn't feel like that anymore....May be I'm demisexual or may be I don't relate with asexual spectrum at all.... I'm just confused...
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Trying to figure out who you like and dont like is confusing AS WELL as realizing that sex sounds kinda gross. I get your confusion! <3
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Asexuality is a spectrum, even if being fully asexual doesn’t fit and you struggle having sexual attraction then you are asexual :)
Also yeah that sound like demisexual.
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Also yeah that sound like demisexual.
I'm still not sure if I'm ace. I think i am at least grayace, but idk. Just based on googling stuff im pretty sure I am at least partly aro and also emotionally detached and have a hard time getting close to people. Idk if any of these could affect sexual feelings. I'm also not sure if just being shy or insecure could effect this. I've never done anything more than kiss and that was kinda just meh. didn't really do anything for me and just felt awkward made me uncomfortable. I can feel attracted to people(usually more for people I don't know weirdly), but i cant imagine actually being physically intimate(pretty confusing for me) and the idea of sex isn't that gross to me, but its gross when i think of doing it myself. I am currently in a relationship and its been fine cause my boyfriend is really accepting, but i can tell he wants more. I do like holding hands and things like that but I also don't care if we dont. I can't see us staying together for very long but being ace(or grayace) is likely only a small part of the reason i feel that way.(sorry, I know some of this was kinda off the discussion topic, I just needed to rant about it cause I'm struggling with relationships)
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I don't really like labels but i think i can identify as graysexual/demisexual to an extent. I haven't dated anyone, just slight crushes but it is pretty hard.
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You are your own person and if someone wants what you don't then their not the right person for you. Don't worry I am questioning but know that you aren't the only asexual.
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i suspected bcuz my bestie is lesbian and she told me this 1 day that i was probably acesexual. i kinda worried since being acesexual is LGBTQ+ and my parents aren't really active supporters, but then she told me what it meant and I was like "oh yeah, that's like me!"
and then I'm going into middle now, and everyone has a crush or is "dating" (openly crushing on someone who likes you back) I was like "shouldn't this be wearing off by now? its been a year" i found this test and was like "why not?"
im too young for dating, though, so I don't have ANY experience whatsoever.
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and then I'm going into middle now, and everyone has a crush or is "dating" (openly crushing on someone who likes you back) I was like "shouldn't this be wearing off by now? its been a year" i found this test and was like "why not?"
im too young for dating, though, so I don't have ANY experience whatsoever.
i don't know if I'm asexual, i very rarely actually feel sexual attraction, but my boyfriend is VERY sexual, even when i tell him i get uncomfortable, he says hell stop but he never does. i love him a lot but i don't think its going to work out if hes this sexual and im not even close too his level. I just want to know if i am before i jump to conclusions, if someone could help me a little? i don't always feel uncomfortable with sex, i just see it as more of a chore, or a boring activity i js don't want to have to do, but there ARE times where i have to admit i am a little sexual. im very interested in dating, I love people very often, i want to go on romantic dates and just spend time with them, but i just am not interested in whatever sexual he has to say to me.
also i hope everyone here is having a good dayyy!! byee
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also i hope everyone here is having a good dayyy!! byee
That honestly doesn't sound like a very healthy relationship. He doesn't seem to accept your boundaries and you can't figure out what feels right because you aren't given the chance. It could be that you're on the asexual spectrum and just rarely experience physical attraction (asexual doesn't mean you can't love someone romantically). It could also be a sex drive issue, based on your mental state or hormone balance. In the end, it doesn't really matter. If someone cannot accept your feelings and boundaries, it ain't healthy, whatever the case is. The only reason figuring this out matters is for your own state of mind, to finally understand why you are the way you are. It can be reassuring, at least for me it was!
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I personally never dated but considering that people I know that have been in relationships I know that they see sex as important and valuable I don’t get it I see how dating would be hard in my mind going for close friends who get might work but idk my advice is kind of bad I know I just wanted to show support
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well I have a friend who is ace and she said that she knew she was ace because after one relationship she just didn't want to take part in love or sexual relationships
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I took this quiz already knowing that I’m aroace but questioning cupioromantic and came out coming to my senses about still being aroace
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Yeah, I'm currently in a relationship and everytime I get more sexual with my partner I feel uncomfortable, awkward, or just neutral. I started wondering if maybe I was asexual after that. I'm still not sure how to bring this up, especially since I really care about my partner and I want to make them happy. I just don't know if I'll ever be attracted to them sexually.
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C’mon, man. Why are all the quizzes keep telling me I’m asexual? I’m PRETTY SURE I’m not
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you might be demi or grey sexual... They/we are more close to the allosexual experience.
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Personally, I think I’m aroace. Honestly, I’ve only ever felt attraction to ONE person. In a romantic way not sexual. This definitely helped
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I actually discovered that I’m Bisexual about 1 year and Demisexual about 1/2 a year
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Thanks for sharing so honestly. Realizing you're asexual can feel overwhelming at first, especially when it comes to dating, but you're definitely not alone. There are people out there who value emotional connection, companionship, and shared interests over sex, and many ace folks have fulfilling relationships. It really comes down to clear communication and finding someone who's on the same page.
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I personally am definitely questioning myself. I'm a hopeless romantic, and I crave the feeling of taking care of someone/being taken care of in a romantic sense, but every time I've ever been in any kind of relationship like that, I just... don't feel anything for the other person, no matter how hard I try. I also have a pretty large libido, and I often find myself thinking of rather inappropriate things almost all the time, as if I could never get it out of my head. I really want a relationship (and I will admit, I've been getting pretty lonely), but I can't feel anything for anyone. The only time I've ever genuinely felt different for someone was when they were already taken (which is right now, actually). It hurts so bad, because it feels like he's the only person on this earth that I actually feel something towards, and no matter how hard I try, I just can't get over him. Am I asexual? The quiz says I am, but.. I just don't know...
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I have two ace friends, there disgusted by the thought of something sexual, i tease the one that ive been friends with the longest, often saying rlly weird things, and making weird noises to spoook her, im gay, so its purely platonic
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Honestly, I didm't even know being demisexual was a THING. It really explains a lot...
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when u only rlly like someone after u know them for a long time or form a bond after a while
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It said I'm not, plus I'm bored, but if you got a different answer, then I suggest you talk to your partner and let them know that you are asexual, so they are informed.
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I have a question, I am Christian and I don’t know if God would allow me to be asexual
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I am christian too, and the Bible doesn't say anything negative towards asexuality. I also believe that God excepts LGBTQIA+ folks.
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I am also Christian, and I'm not going to lie, I might also be a little Asexual as well.
Yes, the Bible does not originally say anything about being Asexual. Technically, there are some sexualities that are considered lust (which is a deadly sin), but overall, He will still love those who identify as those, no matter what. Ultimately, He will not force you to choose one way or another, and he will accept you for whatever you choose. Even if you sin, remember that Jesus died for a reason. That does not mean that you can do whatever you want, but remember that we are human, and that it is okay to make decisions.
Hope you're having a great day, and God bless you! :D
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Yes, the Bible does not originally say anything about being Asexual. Technically, there are some sexualities that are considered lust (which is a deadly sin), but overall, He will still love those who identify as those, no matter what. Ultimately, He will not force you to choose one way or another, and he will accept you for whatever you choose. Even if you sin, remember that Jesus died for a reason. That does not mean that you can do whatever you want, but remember that we are human, and that it is okay to make decisions.
Hope you're having a great day, and God bless you! :D
I'm also Christian, and I am not asexual, but I am pansexual and Lithosexual. Myy church hasn't mentioned anything about LGBTQ+ being a sin
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