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This article was co-authored by April Davis and by wikiHow staff writer, Amber Crain. April Davis is a Matchmaker based in Minneapolis, Minnesota. She is the Founder and President of LUMA, a high-end executive matchmaking service designed for singles seeking a long-term committed relationship. April established LUMA in 2010 with the belief that everyone deserves to be in a healthy, loving, and long-lasting relationship. April employs a team of professional matchmakers with over two decades of experience, committed to finding their members the person they will spend the rest of their lives with. In addition to their matchmaking offerings, LUMA offers date coaching services. LUMA was featured on Inc. 5000’s list of Fastest Growing Companies, and April was featured for her work on Bravo's Hit Reality Show, Real Housewives of the OC. Through LUMA’s customized approach for members, dating coaching services, and cultivated connection-building, April has designed a business to help clients meet their perfect match. She received a Master’s Degree in Business Administration, Management and Operations and a BA in Accounting and Business/Management from The College of St. Scholastica.
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Dating an older woman is exciting and you really want to impress her—but how? Older women may have experiences or expectations that you're not used to, so it's understandable if you’re a bit nervous. In this article, we'll share everything you need to know about dating an older woman, from making a good impression to moving forward with a serious relationship. Keep reading for our complete guide to dating an older woman!
Top Tips for Dating an Older Woman
Matchmaker April Davis says that when dating an older woman, you should do your best to enrich her life in some way. Be respectful and find ways to be helpful, whether that means cooking for her sometimes or just taking her out on a fun date. At the same time, show her that you're confident, mature, and self-assured.
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QuestionHow do you know if your age gap is OK?
Jessica January Behr, PsyDDr. Jessica January Behr is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and the Founder and Director of Behr Psychology. She specializes in couples and sex therapy. Additionally, Dr. Behr treats those experiencing anxiety, stress, relationship problems, and depression. She holds a BA in Psychology from Hunter College. Dr. Behr also holds a Masters of Science of Education (MsED) in School Psychology and a Doctor of Psychology (PsyD) in Clinical Psychology from Pace University.
Licensed Clinical PsychologistFirst you got to understand that there's nothing inherently wrong with two consenting adults being together. More important than the age gap is the fact that the relationship is healthy and comfortable for each of the partners. -
QuestionCan a relationship work between a younger man and an older woman?Jessica January Behr, PsyDDr. Jessica January Behr is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and the Founder and Director of Behr Psychology. She specializes in couples and sex therapy. Additionally, Dr. Behr treats those experiencing anxiety, stress, relationship problems, and depression. She holds a BA in Psychology from Hunter College. Dr. Behr also holds a Masters of Science of Education (MsED) in School Psychology and a Doctor of Psychology (PsyD) in Clinical Psychology from Pace University.
Licensed Clinical PsychologistYes, but you have to ask yourself why you're worried about that. Do you feel totally comfortable with the relationship? There usually are external concerns, like blending in with family and friends, but the most important thing is how you feel on the inside, especially regarding other aspects that may burden the relationship. For example, older people are usually more financially stable and have children, and those dynamics can affect you. -
QuestionCan a younger man be happy with an older woman?Jessica January Behr, PsyDDr. Jessica January Behr is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and the Founder and Director of Behr Psychology. She specializes in couples and sex therapy. Additionally, Dr. Behr treats those experiencing anxiety, stress, relationship problems, and depression. She holds a BA in Psychology from Hunter College. Dr. Behr also holds a Masters of Science of Education (MsED) in School Psychology and a Doctor of Psychology (PsyD) in Clinical Psychology from Pace University.
Licensed Clinical PsychologistYes, he definitely can! There are, however, circumstances that might make that challenging. For example, you may have reactions to the relationship or mixed feelings about the age gap. You should look inward and ask yourself if you are genuinely interested in the older person or if there is something else going on. You can learn a lot about yourself through your attraction to this person.
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Make sure you're dating an older woman for the right reasons. Ask yourself, "Am I genuinely interested in this person, or is this more of a novelty to me?"[17]Thanks
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- ↑ Jessica January Behr, PsyD. Licensed Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview
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To date an older woman, be a gentleman by showing up on time, putting an effort into your appearance, and giving her compliments. You should also voice your opinions and hold up your end of the conversation since older women like men who are thoughtful, articulate, and mature. Another way to hold her interest is to be independent, like having your own friends and hobbies. Don’t make a big deal about her age or else she might sense that you’re uncomfortable with it. Instead, focus on showing her how confident and capable you are by standing tall, making eye contact, and accepting new challenges with excitement. To learn how to make a relationship with an older woman last, keep reading!
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