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If you're hoping to get intimate with a Cancer woman, get ready for one of the most emotionally intense experiences of your life. Her sign is ruled by the Moon, and there's nothing sexier than moonlight, right? Read on to learn everything you need to know to seduce the Cancerian woman of your dreams.
Cancer Woman in Bed: Seduction Tips
The typical Cancer woman is quite the romantic and can be very sensual. Before you get sexual, take the time to caress her tenderly and show her love. Consider preparing a romantic bubble bath or giving her a sensual massage, then engaging in plenty of skin-to-skin contact and foreplay before intercourse.
Pour on the romance. A Cancer woman loves traditional romantic trappings. If you're wooing a Moon maiden, you definitely want to show her that you can be romantic. And don't worry—she loves it all; there's no gesture too cheesy. Show her you know how to speak the language of love, and she'll definitely be thinking about other ways to show her appreciation.[1]XResearch source
Since her sign is ruled by the Moon, a moonlit walk holds special appeal for her. Even better if it's on the beach or by any body of water.
Go the extra mile: Keep things close, personal, and private. She's likely to get overwhelmed by grand gestures or large, public spaces. Since she's a bit shy, she'd likely feel more comfortable having a candlelit dinner on your balcony at home than at a big fancy restaurant.
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Pamper her to show how much you appreciate her. A Cancer lady tends to put others first, so a little pampering is a real treat for her. Something as simple as cooking a nice meal for her or massaging her feet after a long day can help get her in the mood for a little sexy time later on.
Let her know that you appreciate everything she does for you. Then, tell her that you want to take care of her for a change—she'll feel surprised and smitten.
Go the extra mile:Clean the house before she comes over (or gets home, if you live together). Dim the lights and set up some candles so it feels warm, romantic, and intimate.
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Give her a sentimental gift so she'll swoon with nostalgia. Cancerian women tend to be really nostalgic, so they get turned on by a little sentimentality. Reminiscing about sweet moments from the past or turning points in your relationship really gets her in the mood.
You might recreate your first date or make her a photo collage of your favorite times together to put her in a sentimental frame of mind and show her how much she means to you.
Go the extra mile: Find a memento from one of your first dates, such as the to-go menu for the restaurant you ate it or a ticket stub from a show or a movie—she'll be eating out of your hand!
Reader Poll: We asked 327 wikiHow readers what small gift they, as Cancers, would be happiest to receive from someone they’re seeing, and 46% of them said a sweet note.[Take Poll]
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Create a safe and comfortable environment. Comfort and seclusion are paramount for the private Cancerian—she's not much of an "anytime, anywhere" type of lover. She needs to feel safe and comfortable, mentally and physically, before she can fully let go. Think soft, warm, and inviting—mood lighting, quiet music, blankets, and pillows.
If you have roommates, choose an evening when they're going to be out. She'll feel more comfortable if she doesn't have to worry about anyone overhearing.
Go the extra mile: Kick your thermostat up a degree or two so that it's slightly warm—she'll feel more comfortable and won't catch a chill if clothes start to come off.
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Prepare a relaxing bubble bath for two. As a water sign, Cancerian women find baths really sensual. To set up a romantic bath, use bubble bath or a bath bomb and rim the tub with LED candles for the ultimate in romantic relaxation.
If there's not enough room in your tub for the two of you, don't sweat it! You can get the bedroom ready while she soaks.
Go the extra mile: Play some soft romantic or sensual music in the background. If you really want to get her in the mood, pick something you know she thinks is sexy.
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Give her a sensual massage with scented oil. A Cancerian woman loves slow sensuality, and it can take her some time to relax and get in the mood. If you give her a massage, you'll help her release the stress from the day. She'll definitely be feeling the love after you devote so much time and energy to her.
Make sure to set the stage for romance! Soft music, low lighting, and maybe even some candles will really kick up the romantic vibe.
Go the extra mile: Choose a massage oil with soothing and comforting scents, such as chamomile and lavender—it will mesh perfectly with her warm and comforting nature. You might also choose orchid or white rose (both flowers associated with Cancer).[2]XResearch source
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Take things slowly and act with intention. A Cancer woman isn't interested in a quickie. She doesn't rush a romantic relationship, and she's not going to rush the sex either. She wants you to really get to know her well, which you can't do if you race through it. Relax and give her time to open up to you. She'll show you what she enjoys and how she likes to be touched.
Remove clothing slowly, taking your time to caress and kiss each body part revealed before moving onto the next.
Go the extra mile: Talk to her! Give her plenty of compliments and let her know how you're feeling and what's going through your mind. She'll feel more connected to you.
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Engage in lots of foreplay. For the Cancerian woman, foreplay might be more important than the act itself. Even if your ultimate goal is penetrative sex, there's no need to press the issue. In fact, if you do, you're missing out on the best part of sex for her.
Before you get down to business, she wants you to spend time caressing her tenderly as she caresses you. Together, you can discover all of your special little erotic zones.
Go the extra mile: Cancerian women tend to be really into oral sex, so you definitely want to make that a part of your foreplay journey. Lots of kissing, too! Kissing everywhere, really—Cancerians love kissing.
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Pay particular attention to her breasts. The breasts are the part of the body ruled by Cancer.[3]XResearch source Because of this, Cancerian women tend to be especially sensitive in this area, and she'll love it if you make her breasts your focus. If you add in a little nipple play, you're sure to get her fired up.
Since she also loves foreplay, don't worry that you're spending too much time up here. You might even tease her by letting your hands wander down her torso, only to return to her breasts.
Go the extra mile: Start with gentle squeezes and slowly increase the pressure. Pay attention to her physical reaction, and you'll know when to let up without going too far.
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Choose loving, secure sex positions. For a Cancerian woman, sex is all about the emotional connection. For this reason, Cancer ladies tend to prefer sex positions that are intimate and involve as much skin-to-skin contact as possible.
In the lotus position (facing each other with your legs wrapped around each other's torsos) or missionary position, you can face each other and make eye contact, which she'll love.
Spooning is another great position that can make her feel very safe and secure if your arms are wrapped around her.
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Cuddle and chat softly after sex. A Cancerian woman typically wants to stay close after being intimate. Sex is an emotional experience for her, and she likes laying with you as these emotions roll over her, feeling the intense connection. Tell her how much you enjoyed the experience and how beautiful she is.
Don't be surprised if she ends up crying—it's not because you did anything wrong; it's just a release of all of those intense emotions she's experiencing. Just hold her hand or caress her softly and let her know that you're there for her.
Go the extra mile: Ask if she needs anything. Have small snacks and water nearby so she can have something to eat or drink without you having to leave her.
Cancer women are the nurturing mothers of the zodiac. She's a loving caretaker to all she meets, always looking out for others and seeming to anticipate everyone's needs. The moon maiden is incredibly sensitive emotionally, and she knows it—that's one reason she's so cautious about letting people in. She's loyal and devoted to everyone she loves.[4]XResearch source
Cancerian women get the steamiest with water and Earth signs. Fellow water signs Pisces and Scorpio are just as emotionally intense as she is, and sex with them is an erotically emotional and sensually intuitive encounter. The slow sensuality of an Earth sign (Taurus, Capricorn, Virgo) can be a perfect match for the Cancerian woman's love of all things foreplay.[5]XResearch source
Trust and sensuality are high with these combinations, which sets the stage for real exploration and erotic experimentation.
Make it sizzle: Deep, emotional conversations about sensual or sexy topics will really get her in the mood. Follow up with intuitive compliments that make her feel safe and secure.
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Fire signs can get a Cancer lady hot under the collar. A Cancerian woman isn't typically one for a quick fling or casual sex, but if she gets an itch to explore, chances are it's going to be with an Aries, Leo, or Sagittarius. These passionate, active signs have really got what it takes to unleash her libido.
Even in more casual relationships that are primarily sexual, don't be surprised if a Cancerian woman finds herself getting emotionally attached.
Make it sizzle: If she has a submissive streak (and many Cancer women do), take charge in bed. She'll love feeling so protected and wanted.
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Air signs might have a hard time getting a Cancer lady to warm up. Air signs (Aquarius, Gemini, Libra) tend to value logic and reason over feelings, and that can result in a huge disconnect with someone as emotional as a Cancer woman. But if they have other things in common, they can end up having some adventurous times in the sack as well.
If a Cancer woman does end up in a sexual relationship with an air sign, it can get pretty hot and heavy—but often, they have more of a platonic attraction than a romantic or sexual one.
Make it sizzle: Dial back your urge to experiment from time to time and relax. Make an effort to go slow and pay attention to her, and you'll be rewarded.
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This article was co-authored by Stina Garbis and by wikiHow staff writer, Jennifer Mueller, JD. Reverend Stina Garbis is a Psychic Astrologer and the Owner of Psychic Stina. With over 30 years of experience, she specializes in providing personal and professional advice through astrology and tarot card readings. Reverend Stina has experience working with high-profile celebrities, sports figures, politicians, and CEOs. She has been featured in many publications, including Bustle, Vice, The New York Post, and Readers’ Digest and she also has a 200k+ following on TikTok. Stina holds an Ordained Minister License from The International Metaphysical Ministry University Seminary. This article has been viewed 147,901 times.
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Pour on the romance. A Cancer woman loves traditional romantic trappings. If you're wooing a Moon maiden, you definitely want to show her that you can be romantic. And don't worry—she loves it all; there's no gesture too cheesy. Show her you know how to speak the language of love, and she'll definitely be thinking about other ways to show her appreciation.[1]
Pamper her to show how much you appreciate her. A Cancer lady tends to put others first, so a little pampering is a real treat for her. Something as simple as cooking a nice meal for her or massaging her feet after a long day can help get her in the mood for a little sexy time later on.
Give her a sentimental gift so she'll swoon with nostalgia. Cancerian women tend to be really nostalgic, so they get turned on by a little sentimentality. Reminiscing about sweet moments from the past or turning points in your relationship really gets her in the mood.
Create a safe and comfortable environment. Comfort and seclusion are paramount for the private Cancerian—she's not much of an "anytime, anywhere" type of lover. She needs to feel safe and comfortable, mentally and physically, before she can fully let go. Think soft, warm, and inviting—mood lighting, quiet music, blankets, and pillows.
Prepare a relaxing bubble bath for two. As a water sign, Cancerian women find baths really sensual. To set up a romantic bath, use bubble bath or a bath bomb and rim the tub with LED candles for the ultimate in romantic relaxation.
Give her a sensual massage with scented oil. A Cancerian woman loves slow sensuality, and it can take her some time to relax and get in the mood. If you give her a massage, you'll help her release the stress from the day. She'll definitely be feeling the love after you devote so much time and energy to her.
Take things slowly and act with intention. A Cancer woman isn't interested in a quickie. She doesn't rush a romantic relationship, and she's not going to rush the sex either. She wants you to really get to know her well, which you can't do if you race through it. Relax and give her time to open up to you. She'll show you what she enjoys and how she likes to be touched.
Engage in lots of foreplay. For the Cancerian woman, foreplay might be more important than the act itself. Even if your ultimate goal is penetrative sex, there's no need to press the issue. In fact, if you do, you're missing out on the best part of sex for her.
Pay particular attention to her breasts. The breasts are the part of the body ruled by Cancer.[3] Because of this, Cancerian women tend to be especially sensitive in this area, and she'll love it if you make her breasts your focus. If you add in a little nipple play, you're sure to get her fired up.
Choose loving, secure sex positions. For a Cancerian woman, sex is all about the emotional connection. For this reason, Cancer ladies tend to prefer sex positions that are intimate and involve as much skin-to-skin contact as possible.
Cuddle and chat softly after sex. A Cancerian woman typically wants to stay close after being intimate. Sex is an emotional experience for her, and she likes laying with you as these emotions roll over her, feeling the intense connection. Tell her how much you enjoyed the experience and how beautiful she is.
