How to Act Around Girls (for Boys)

Co-authored by Alessandra Conti and Janice Tieperman

Last Updated: January 10, 2024

Want to know how to make the best possible impression on the girl you like? You've come to the right place. We've covered everything you need to know about guy-on-girl interactions, so have a better chance at hitting it off with her. Read on to discover plenty of ways that you can maintain respect and kindness around girls.

1

Make the first move.

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Girls are often very insecure and don't want to come on too strong. So, you should make the first move. One thing that may be going through a girl's mind is, "What if he doesn't like me back? If he likes me, he can get off his shy butt and come over here and tell me!"
- If you don't feel comfortable making the first move, take a step back from the situation and reflect on why you feel that way. What can you work on within yourself that can make you feel confident enough to make the first move?^{[1]
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Accept rejection.

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Move on if you ask a girl for her number and she rejects you. She's obviously not interested.
- Rejection is a fact of life—the key is understanding that it's not the end of the world.^{[2]
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Be careful asking for her number.

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If, however, she does give you her number, try to only use it to arrange dates. For example, constantly texting her will probably give her the idea that you are in love with her, and set very high expectations for your relationship.

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Don't lead her on.

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Of course, you should not go out with her after the first date if there is no connection. If you feel there is no connection, say so early on and don't leave her hanging, this will result in resentment from her.

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Be friendly.

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See how she reacts when you start the conversation, and go from there.

6

Act casual and be yourself.

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They're not as likely to fall for the person you're pretending to be.

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Be consistent.

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Many boys think that their friends will tease them if they are all "loved up" with their girlfriend. To make it easier, see your friends separately from your girlfriend. If you are together though, be yourself with your friends but make sure you don't leave your girlfriend out.

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Suggest a kiss.

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Make sure that she likes you back first. Then hint, touch her arm and look into her eyes, or look at her lips then at her. It is a good idea to make some contact before the kiss, so holding her hand or tucking her hair behind her ear is a good start. Lean in - but slowly so that if she doesn't look up for it you can just touch her arm and say something instead. If she leans toward you as well then good! Move your head slightly to one side first and she will follow.
- If she pulls away before you expected, don't be awkward, just act like you wanted it to end then as well. Don't pressure her into anything.

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Be clear.

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Sure, she might get upset, but that is better than going along with it and breaking up with her later.

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Remember—the key to attraction starts with feeling attractive! That's why it's so important to work on yourself and to really feel attractive in the way that you look, the way that you're presenting yourself, and the way that you're feeling.^{[3]
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Be funny, tease her (without being mean) and make her laugh. Many girls really like it when a guy is funny.

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For most girls, personality is much much more important than looks. You don't have to be particularly handsome for a girl to like you, just be clean and smell nice. So just be yourself to get the best results.

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If she makes it clear that she isn't interested, then you should probably stop trying to impress her, and move on.

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If she has a partner, then you shouldn't try this.

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